About the fellowship
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Co-Dependents Anonymous, or CoDA, is a free, anonymous fellowship of people helping each other build healthy and loving relationships. Members use a twelve-step programme to look at the patterns that make closeness, boundaries, and self-worth hard, and to practise new ones.
There are no fees and no referrals. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships.
CoDA is for anyone who finds it hard to keep a sense of themselves in relationships, whether that means losing yourself in other people, struggling with boundaries, over-giving, or staying in situations that hurt. It is not only about romantic relationships, and you do not need anyone else in your life to have an addiction.
People often arrive worn out from looking after everyone but themselves. CoDA is a place to start putting that right, in your own time and without anyone labelling you.
In CoDA, codependency is simply a word for patterns that get in the way of healthy relationships, with others and with yourself. CoDA has its own Patterns and Characteristics of Codependence that members read and reflect on. They are there to help you recognise yourself, gently, not to give you a diagnosis.
CoDA began in Phoenix, Arizona, in 1986, when a small group adapted the twelve steps to relationships rather than a single substance. The first meeting drew about thirty people, and the fellowship has since spread to more than seventy countries. It now meets across the UK in person, online, and as hybrids.