Question 1

My son or daughter is a drug addict. What do I do?

Accepted Answer

Start with support for yourself, today, through Families Anonymous (020 7498 4680) or a free carer service like We Are With You or Change Grow Live. You did not cause it, and steadying yourself is the most reliable way to help. If there is any risk of overdose, learn the signs and how to get naloxone.

Question 2

How do I help someone who does not want help?

Accepted Answer

You cannot force an adult into recovery, but you are not powerless. The approach the evidence supports is CRAFT, a calm, non-confrontational way of supporting someone toward help, rather than an ultimatum or a surprise intervention. We Are With You, Change Grow Live and SMART Family and Friends can guide you.

Question 3

Am I enabling them?

Accepted Answer

Enabling is a pattern, not an accusation. It usually means doing things that soften the consequences, like money or covering for them. Adfam's guidance is to think through your limits, say them clearly, then follow through. Noticing it does not mean you are to blame.

Question 4

Is it my fault?

Accepted Answer

No. You did not cause it, you cannot control it, and you cannot cure it. Addiction is an illness, and your adult child's choices are not a measure of your parenting.

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